The holidays are here. You can’t walk into a mall in Pittsburgh without seeing a 2-year-old crying on Santa’s lap, turn on the radio without hearing another rendition of that song you used to like, or drive down the street without being taunted by colorful lights and plastic lawn characters. Of course, many people love the holidays, but those who are contemplating divorce may feel less than cheery this holiday season.
For many people, the first conversation about divorce is something that should be timed just right. The right moment, however, rarely presents itself during the holidays — especially for people with children — leaving those considering divorce to grin and bear it until the New Year. For this reason, January has become known as the month of divorce.
The reasons why people avoid the d-word during the holidays are clear. No one wants to ruin the season for friends and family. On top of that, the idea that your holiday traditions will stop after this year can be overwhelming.
No matter when you choose to talk to your spouse about divorce, it is important to keep in mind that it usually ends up being a good thing. Although it is sometimes hard at first, many people find that divorce allows both spouses to move on with their lives in a way that allows them to find the peace and happiness they weren’t getting before.
Divorce, however, requires planning. While you wait for the right moment to discuss it with your family, it may be wise to start gathering financial statements, account information and other documents that will help ensure your divorce is done right.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Merry Divorce? Why It’s So Hard to Call It Quits During the Holidays,” Abby Rodman, Dec. 13, 2013