Pennsylvania parents often worry about the impact that a divorce can have on their children. Even in the best scenarios, it represents a major change in a child’s life. However, there are steps that parents can take that will make it easier to deal with.
One way to make the process easier is to limit the amount of transitions that the children will have to face. To the extent possible, conscientious parents should take strides to maintain consistent routines. If the father always took the kids to practice on Wednesday, there probably is not a reason why he cannot continue to do so. If a book is always read at bedtime, both parents should have copies to read to the child. Major transitions should also be avoided, such as moving homes, changing schools or moving in with a new romantic partner. When a couple decides to get a divorce, there may be necessary changes such as a parent returning to the workforce or the parents having to downsize due to a difference in household funds, but those changes that are not necessary should be carefully contemplated.
Another way that divorce is easier on kids is when conflict between the parents is limited. Children should not have to feel like pawns or messengers. The overreaching goal of a custody arrangement is usually how to allow the children the most amount and quality of time possible. Parents should also take care of themselves during this time so that they are fully able to effectively care for their children.
Parents who are concerned about the effects that the end of a marriage may have on their children may wish to consult with their respective family law attorneys. They may suggest ways to minimize conflict and make arrangements so that expectations, rights and duties are clearly laid out.